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A few hours a few times a week is no big ask. Be sure to stay active, and your confidence will reach a stage where you become a real, long-term prospect as a partner. There is an added charm in being able to do this, and it’s this charm that will have women looking over at you. When you decide you do want to have a girlfriend, being aware of these social elements are essential to your success. I was sure to build up what I call “relationship equity” with all my resourceful friends simply by being generous.
When the right type of woman does come along, you’ll recognize it right away. But also, you’ll know that there are several good women out there who you could be with. And this will stop you from acting needy or clingy.
A common mistake that guys make when trying to get themselves a girlfriend is that they meet a woman, feel sexually attracted to her and immediately begin to want to have her as a girlfriend (i.e. he is smitten, falls in love at first sight). Now I’m not saying you need to go out and tell a girl you’re attracted to her (although that does work when said in the right tone, see our article on how to tell a girl you like her), but instead don’t play it safe. One huge mistake guys do that kills all attraction is to approach women in an overly safe manner. So that even if she rejects you, you don’t feel rejected because ‘you weren’t really trying’.
You wanna know why? Because relationships, as great as they are, are a lot of work. It’s no longer just you. It’s we.
How do you know if you’re doing this or not? Well if you make up an excuse to hang out with her on a continuous basis, such as to study together, for work or any other reason then you’re playing it too safe. It was Erasure’s Andy Bell who famously sung “give a little respect to me”.
- Forming a relationship is not a set of rigid sequences.
- You want out of the friends zone – go here.
- I have a friend who is a pianist, and he didn’t even hint to his now-wife that he also knew how to play guitar until maybe a year into the relationship.
- That will only put you on the opposite side of where you are – you’ll risk becoming a show off or a guy who feels they need to impress a woman to get her to feel attracted to you.
A Final Word Of Advice
Approach her with confidence. Now that you’re ready, it’s time to approach her.
Step 1: What is your ideal girlfriend like?
Don’t leave the conversation until you’ve at least implied you want to do this again, and soon. Don’t sweat about how to compliment a girl, it’s easy. The trick is to make sure the compliment really speaks to her and is not too obvious. You’ve scoped out the scene and can use your surroundings. You know a bit about women and can work off her reactions.
Who live a life they are proud of and don’t let others dictate their actions and decisions. You’ll begin to understand that getting a girlfriend is not the most important thing in the world, in fact it’s more like an added bonus to your already awesome life. Make it official.
Ryan Gosling? Brad Pitt? Yeah, sure, they’re attractive guys, but they sweat confidence.
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